Moment 186: Why You Have No Friends: Simon Sinek

When the CIA needed to understand the secrets of human communication, this was the man they contacted to help decode the arts of influence, deception and seduction. Chase Hughes is a former US Navy Chief and leading behaviour expert. He is the bestselling author of books such as, ‘The Behavior Operations Manual: Neuro-Cognitive Intelligence’ and ‘The Ellipsis Manual: Analysis And Engineering of Human Behaviour’. In this conversation, Chase and Steven discuss topics such as, how to master the art of persuasion, the best way to achieve success in life, how to extract sensitive information, and how to detect liars fast. 00:00 Intro 02:00 Who Is Chase Hughes and What Is His Mission? 03:28 The Factors for Success 04:17 Who Has Chase Worked With? 05:41 What Is the Behaviour Ops Manual? 06:42 The Most Common Reason People Come to Chase 14:45 The Elements That Give Someone Authority 17:18 Is There a Physical Appearance of Authority? 21:03 Building Confidence Within Your Own Mind 27:38 Is There a Relationship Between Discipline and Confidence? 29:23 Is It Possible to Read a Room? 39:46 What You Should Know About Communication 46:07 How Chase Would Sell a Pen 51:09 Listening: A Key Part of Communication 52:15 What Is Illicitation? 59:27 What Is the PCP Model? 1:10:33 How To and Should You Win an Argument? 1:16:34 How To Read Someone's Motivations in Life 1:25:11 What Is the Most Common Deficiency in Sales Pitches? 1:33:10 How Do I Change My Discipline? 1:38:32 Are There Any Tricks To Improve Discipline? 1:40:40 How To Form New Habits 1:48:06 If You See This With a Product, Be Terrified 1:53:05 What’s the Cost of This Social Media Rabbit Hole? 1:58:46 Guest's Last Question Follow Chase:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/WyJ70f6xqPb  YouTube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DUk91t8xqPb  NCI Training Page - https://g2ul0.app.link/dJtkPQUQqPb  You can purchase Chase’s book, ‘The Behavior Operations Manual: Neuro-Cognitive Intelligence’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/e1rvBDfyqPb  Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook  You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb   Sponsors: Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

50-70% of people will experience a trauma in their life, but how do you heal from these devastating experiences? If the Body Keeps the Score, according to Bessel van der Kolk this is how you get even with trauma. Bessel van der Kolk is Professor of Psychiatry at Boston University School of Medicine and President of the Trauma Research Foundation. He is the author of the global bestselling book ‘The Body Keeps The Score’. In this conversation, Bessel and Steven discuss topics such as, how to heal from childhood trauma, the benefits of EMDR therapy, the link between screens and loneliness, and how trauma physically changes your brain. 00:00 Intro 02:32 Bessel's Mission 03:09 What Is Trauma? 04:37 What Trauma Treatments Do You Disagree With? 06:03 Does Rationalising Your Trauma Help? 07:01 What Is Considered Trauma? 09:40 Can Small Events Lead to Trauma? 10:20 Bessel's Experience as a Psychiatrist 12:43 Bessel's Parents 15:31 Consequences of Child Abuse 16:07 Is It Important to Understand Childhood Experiences? 16:42 Was Your Mother an Incest Victim? 17:31 How Many Patients Trace Issues to Childhood Experiences? 18:01 Examples of Child Abuse 19:18 How Culture Influences Parenting 21:52 Disciplining Children 24:03 Liberation Equals Separation 25:44 What Did You Learn for Your Children? 27:01 Medical Treatment for Behavioural Dysfunctions in Children 30:36 Impact of Movement on Healing 32:00 Importance of Secure Attachment to a Caregiver 32:57 Can You Heal from Childhood Trauma? 34:32 The Body Keeps the Score 36:27 Somatic Approach to Healing 36:53 Are Women More in Touch with Somatic Healing? 38:02 Impact of Trauma on Creativity 41:14 Trauma as a Perception 45:05 How Many People Have Trauma? 45:50 How Does Trauma Affect Brain Activity? 50:00 Study: Reliving a Traumatic Event 55:13 Most Radical Improvement in Clinical Practice 55:55 EMDR 59:01 Demonstration of EMDR 1:04:12 Breath work 1:05:55 Impact of Yoga on Trauma 1:06:23 Study: Effects of a Weekly Yoga Class 1:08:09 Disconnection and Hypersensitivity 1:10:26 Impact of Physical Activity on Trauma 1:13:15 Picking Up People's Energy 1:16:01 Challenges of Individualistic Cultures 1:16:48 Role of Community and Social Connections in Trauma 1:17:37 Are Women Better at Forming Connections? 1:18:19 Building Relationships in the Army 1:19:13 Building Connections Through Sports 1:20:19 How to Get By in an Individualistic Society 1:21:13 Are You Optimistic About the Future? 1:22:12 Are You Able to Point Out Anything Good About Trump? 1:22:33 Human Inclination Toward Fighting 1:22:54 Three Ways to Reverse the Damage of Trauma 1:25:52 Types of Brainwaves 1:27:48 Psychedelic Therapy 1:28:26 Body Practices 1:29:07 Is Touch Healing? 1:29:21 Talk Therapy 1:29:46 Bessel's View on Taking Medications 1:30:08 The Bottom-Up Approach 1:31:53 Does Going to the Gym Help? 1:34:05 Bessel's View on Psychedelic Therapy 1:38:00 Effects of MDMA 1:39:25 Impact of Psychedelics on Treatment-Resistant Depression 1:40:32 Bessel's Experience with Psychedelics 1:43:11 How Did Psychedelic Experiences Change You? 1:43:48 Have You Healed from Your Trauma? 1:44:36 Psychodrama 1:49:33 The Rise in ADHD Diagnoses 1:51:45 Cause of ADHD 1:52:42 Is ADHD Over diagnosed? 1:55:21 How Can We Raise Untraumatised Kids? 1:56:24 Helping People in Traumatic Events 1:58:20 Question from the Previous Guest Follow Bessel:  Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/fJd55uRwqPb  Studies mentioned: besselvanderkolk.tiiny.co You can purchase Bessel’s book, ‘The Body Keeps The Score’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/hLePea0wqPb  Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb   Sponsors: PerfectTed - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, you'll learn how Charlie Sloth, renowned DJ and music entrepreneur, stays true to his values whilst building and scaling a global brand. Featuring tough decisions, lessons on authenticity, and the role of integrity in creating a successful brand. Head to https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 to claim your credit. Listen to the full episode here - Spotify- https://g2ul0.app.link//TIVYc9ZjNu Apple - https://g2ul0.app.link//eF0IPuWwsPb Watch the Episodes On Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/c/%20TheDiaryOfACEO/videos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The world is becoming increasingly stressed and anxious, according to Oprah's life coach the solution to coping with modern times involve changing your brain Dr Martha Beck is a Harvard-trained sociologist and founder of the ‘Wayfinder Life Coach Training’ platform. She is host of the podcast ‘The Gathering Room’ and bestselling author of books such as, ‘The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self’. In this conversation, Dr Martha and Steven discuss anxiety, lying, how to fix childhood trauma, how to feel peace again, and the real reason anxiety levels are skyrocketing.  00:00 Intro 02:17 What Are You Aiming to Do With All Your Work? 05:12 What Is the Shift You're Predicting? 07:58 Who Are You in Terms of Your Qualifications? 10:24 Who Have You Worked With? 15:03 Why Did You Decide to Write a Book About Anxiety? 21:24 What Do We Need to Know About the Brain to Understand This All? 27:02 How Would I Switch Away From My Anxiety State Into My Creative State? 35:09 [Empty Timestamp – Possible Edit Note] 40:32 A Three-Step Process to Alleviate Anxiety on a Daily Basis 42:42 We Have to Be Gentle With Ourselves 47:23 The Anxiety Spiral 48:42 Car Horn [Noise Interruption] 53:51 What's Your View on the Suffering Between Men and Women? 58:09 Why Are Young Men Killing Themselves at Alarming Rates? 1:02:29 Your Experiences Growing Up 1:04:35 Facing Abuse as a Child 1:09:34 My Mum Knew He Was Abusing Me 1:15:16 Did Anything Happen to Them? 1:16:08 Forgiveness 1:16:24 Always Wanted to End My Life 1:18:01 Lying Makes You Weak 1:23:35 How Do We Find Our Meaning and Purpose? 1:25:55 What If You Don't Want to Do Something but Feel Like You Have To? 1:28:04 What Is Freedom? 1:30:06 How Different Is the Martha at 32 to Now? 1:36:11 This Light You Saw in Surgery 1:39:31 Why Did Truth Emerge From That? 1:44:10 How Do You Know What Your True Nature Is? 1:45:47 The Grieving Process 1:47:05 Being True About Your Sexuality 1:54:38 What Are the Lies We're Sold About Meaning and Purpose? 1:59:09 Advice for Someone Who Can't Find Their Purpose in Life 2:03:46 How Has the Internet Messed This All Up? 2:10:49 The Last Guest's Question Disclaimer: Advice regarding mental health concerns should always be sought from certified and qualified professionals. Follow Dr Martha:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/5Le3Vr1uqPb  Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/JCbAdi3uqPb  Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/unTVO56uqPb  Studies & sources mentioned marthabeck.tiiny.co You can pre-order Dr Martha’s book, ‘Beyond Anxiety: Curiosity, Creativity and Finding Your Life’s Purpose by Martha Beck’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/KVHfpHdvqPb  Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook  You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb  Get your hands on the brand new Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code BARTLETT10 for 10% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reid Hoffman is the Founder of LinkedIn, founding member of Paypal, early investor in Airbnb And Facebook.He is the co-host of the ‘Possible’ Podcast and best-selling author of books such as, ‘Masters of Scale’ and ‘Blitzscaling’.  In this conversation, Reid and Steven discuss topics such as, why passion isn’t enough for success, the truth about the PayPal Mafia’s success, why Reid stepped back from LinkedIn, and how to adapt to an AI world.  00:00 Intro 02:16 How Have You Managed to Be So Successful? 07:34 What Did You Want to Be When You Were Growing Up? 08:46 Why Was Being Born in Stanford Hospital So Relevant to Your Story? 15:27 Self-Awareness as an Entrepreneur 17:38 Should Everyone Try to Be an Entrepreneur? 25:45 How Do I Know If My Business Is Good or Not? 37:06 What Was LinkedIn Like When It First Started? 39:09 Why Were So Many Successful People from the PayPal Mafia? 42:23 The Importance of Sales 49:11 How Important Is Hiring in Business? 55:16 What Are the Different Types of Entrepreneurs? 57:43 Elon Musk’s Approach to Business 01:03:17 Work-Life Balance in Startups 01:08:24 Stepping Back as CEO for LinkedIn 01:12:18 How Does Life Change When You Become a Billionaire? 01:13:58 Political Stance as a Billionaire 01:18:11 Trump’s Redeeming Qualities 01:22:32 The Shift Towards Freedom of Speech 01:25:02 Freedom of Speech as X 01:33:03 What Do You Think Social Media Will Become in the Next Decade? 01:37:58 How Should the Average Person Be Approaching AI? 01:40:12 Is the Gloom Around AI Warranted? 01:50:23 What Should the Everyday Person Be Doing with AI? 01:58:40 How Do We Learn About AI? 02:00:22 Your Early Investment in OpenAI 02:01:45 How Important Is Networking? 02:02:30 Underappreciated Qualities for a Good Entrepreneur 02:05:58 The Qualities You Look for in an Entrepreneur 02:15:21 What Is Happiness to You? 02:19:08 Marriage and Entrepreneurship 02:20:55 Should All Entrepreneurs Be Moving Fast to Build a Company? 02:28:51 How Should You Be Viewing Risk? 02:31:56 How Do We Know When to Quit? 02:34:25 LinkedIn’s Deck 02:37:44 Are You Still Interested in Building Companies? 02:40:17 Are There Any Unchecked Boxes? 02:42:28 Last Guest’s Question Follow Reid:  Twitter - https://bit.ly/3OVphKO  YouTube - https://bit.ly/3OSw33O  Website - https://bit.ly/3ZP4GxT  Podcast - https://g2ul0.app.link/IqXyrFoeiPb  You can pre-order Reid’s book, ‘Superagency: What Could Possibly Go Right with Our AI Future’, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/6iAtlcEeiPb  Get your hands on the brand new Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook  You can purchase the The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: Second Edition, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/f31dsUttKKb  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb  Sponsors: Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/doac24 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices