The Art of Charm
The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science b...
Series Episodes
Hidden Logic of High-Status Networks Infiltration | Social Intelligence Briefing
Episode Description: AJ and Johnny reveal two tactical moves from their infiltration method — the same framework they’ve used to train special forces, federal agents, and high performers — that explain how real access works inside elite networks. You’ll learn why gatekeepers aren’t blocking you, they’re filtering for alignment — and how to respond when someone says, “They’re too busy right now.” They also break down the psychology behind silence — the quiet moment after your pitch or point — and why most people destroy their credibility by filling it. This episode shows you how high-value rooms actually operate, what gatekeepers are signaling, and how to move with confidence through tension, power, and hierarchy without chasing approval or forcing entry. Chapters:00:00 – Why credentials stop working at the top01:30 – How elite networks actually filter for access03:00 – The gatekeeper moment: “They’re too busy right now”05:00 – The one question that flips power dynamics06:30 – The silence trap: what decision-makers are really doing08:00 – How to hold tension and signal alignment09:30 – The infiltration mindset: how access really works A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout. Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok networking, communication, leadership, influence, access, gatekeepers, power dynamics, social intelligence, charisma, status, The Art of Charm, persuasion Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
13 mins
23 January Finished
Modern Dating Is Broken | Paul Eastwick
AJ and Johnny sit down with Paul Eastwick, relationship scientist and author of Bonded by Evolution, to unpack what modern dating has gotten wrong — and what the science actually says about love, attraction, and connection. They explore how online dating has distorted our view of desirability, why the search for “the perfect person” makes us miserable, and how real connection comes from shared time, not algorithms. Paul breaks down how our brains evolved for small-group bonding — not endless swiping — and reveals the truth about compatibility, attachment, and the misunderstood “friend zone.” From evolutionary psychology to modern dating anxiety, this conversation is a masterclass in how to build real relationships in a world built on comparison. Chapters: 00:00 – Why love advice is so confusing05:00 – How online dating rewired attraction10:00 – The confidence gap and lost social skills15:00 – The danger of treating dating like a marketplace20:00 – Algorithms, ego, and authenticity in the AI era30:00 – How relationships actually form and last 35:00 – Compatibility is built, not found 40:00 – Why men should stop fearing the friend zone45:00 – Redefining masculinity and modern love A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Episode resources: Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection Love Factually Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok meetings, collaboration, leadership, communication, productivity, visibility, AI at work, remote work, workplace culture, career growth, The Art of Charm AI, automation, purpose, identity, future of work, Zack Kass, The Next Renaissance, technology, leadership, creativity, meaning, human connection, emotional intelligence, optimism, The Art of Charm Paul Eastwick, dating, relationships, love, attraction, compatibility, attachment theory, online dating, Tinder, Bumble, match, masculinity, connection, psychology, The Art of Charm, AJ Harbinger, Johnny Dzubak Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1 hour 10 mins
19 January Finished
Why High Social Skills Win in the Age of AI | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny break down the real competitive edge in the age of AI — emotional regulation and social intelligence. As automation levels the playing field for output, human connection has become the new performance multiplier. This episode unpacks why the smartest person in the room isn’t always the most successful, and how tension management, emotional safety, and neural synchrony have replaced raw intelligence as the markers of influence. You’ll learn how to turn moments of silence, pushback, or disagreement into trust and authority — and why your ability to regulate emotion, not your technical skill, now drives your career, your relationships, and your reputation. Chapters:00:00 – When AI disappears: where human skill still matters02:00 – The data: social skills now outperform analytical skills05:00 – Intelligence is common — judgment is rare08:00 – How safety and emotional regulation drive influence12:00 – The neuroscience of trust and neural synchrony16:00 – Why technical skill without presence stalls your career20:00 – The tension gap: learning to stay calm under pressure24:00 – How to turn pushback into authority28:00 – From output to interaction: the new advantage32:00 – How to become the person people trust under uncertainty A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout. Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok AI, social intelligence, emotional regulation, leadership, communication, trust, influence, charisma, connection, X Factor, psychology, neuroscience, The Art of Charm Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10 mins
16 January Finished
Is AI Coming For Your Job? | Zack Kass
AJ and Johnny sit down with Zack Kass, AI futurist and author of The Next Renaissance: AI and the Expansion of Human Potential, to explore how artificial intelligence will reshape identity, purpose, and meaning. Zack breaks down why our fear of AI isn’t really about machines; it’s about identity displacement. They dive deep into how creativity, purpose, and work evolve when technology becomes capable of doing almost everything. From artists confronting AI-generated art to professionals watching automation change their industries, Zack explains why humanity’s next great challenge isn’t survival, it’s spiritual. This episode unpacks how to navigate the coming era with optimism, connection, and mastery — and why the most valuable skill of the future is still deeply, unapologetically human. Chapters: 00:00 – Facing the fear: AI, art, and identity06:00 – The loss of purpose in the age of automation10:00 – Infinite creativity and the watercooler effect15:00 – Why community and shared experience still matter20:00 – The automation boundary: where do we stop?25:00 – Political protection, purpose, and work that stays human30:00 – AI, inequality, and the distribution problem35:00 – The real reason cost of living is broken40:00 – Connection vs. artificial intimacy50:00 – How to stay human: learn, lead, and live with optimism A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. If you’ve put off organizing your finances, Monarch is for you. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for half off your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Grow your way - with Headway! Get started at makeheadway.com/CHARM and use my code CHARM for 25% off. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Episode resources: The Next Renaissance: AI and the Expansion of Human Potential ZackKass.com Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok meetings, collaboration, leadership, communication, productivity, visibility, AI at work, remote work, workplace culture, career growth, The Art of Charm AI, automation, purpose, identity, future of work, Zack Kass, The Next Renaissance, technology, leadership, creativity, meaning, human connection, emotional intelligence, optimism, The Art of Charm Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1 hour 2 mins
12 January Finished
AI Can’t Save You in the Conference Room (Or on a Date) | Social Intelligence Briefing
AJ and Johnny reveal the single most important human skill to master in 2026 — and why it’s the one AI will never replace: validation. As automation takes over the transactional side of work, the moments that matter most — the hallway conversation, the tense meeting, the post-date silence — depend on your ability to make people feel understood. This episode breaks down why being right often backfires, how “fixing” kills influence and attraction, and why validation is the real unlock for leadership, connection, and persuasion in the AI era. They share real-world examples from clients in tech, dating, and leadership, showing how one small shift in sequencing — acknowledging before advising — transforms every interaction. Chapters: 00:00 – Why your biggest moments now matter more than ever 03:00 – AI can’t replace the human layer of influence 05:00 – People move toward those who make them feel understood 07:00 – Why being right makes things worse 09:00 – How “fixing” kills attraction and trust 11:00 – The validation sequence: acknowledge before advise 13:00 – Real examples from work, dating, and daily life 16:00 – The neuroscience of feeling safe and seen 18:00 – Validation: the leadership skill AI can’t automate 20:00 – The 3-step validation protocol AI, emotional intelligence, validation, leadership, communication, influence, connection, charisma, psychology, empathy, attraction A Word From Our Sponsors Stop being over looked and unlock your X-Factor today at unlockyourxfactor.com Check out Johnny on Instagram @Social_Intell or on Tiktok @social_intel The very qualities that make you exceptional in your field are working against you socially. Visit the artofcharm.com/intel for a social intelligence assessment and discover exactly what's holding you back. Download Stuff for free today by going to trystuff.app or by searching for “Stuff” in the App Store. You can get 50% off your first year of Extra Stuff by using code CHARM at checkout. Don’t let financial opportunity slip through the cracks. Use code CHARM at monarch.com in your browser for HALF OFF your first year. Indulge in affordable luxury with Quince. Upgrade your wardrobe today at quince.com/charm for free shipping and hassle-free returns. Ready to turn your business idea into reality? Sign up for your $1/month trial at shopify.com/charm. Need to hire top talent—fast? Claim your $75 Sponsored Job Credit now at Indeed.com/charm. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at mintmobile.com/charm Save more than fifty percent on term life insurance at SELECTQUOTE.COM/CHARM TODAY to get started Curious about your influence level? Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence. Check in with AJ and Johnny! AJ on LinkedIn Johnny on LinkedIn AJ on Instagram Johnny on Instagram The Art of Charm on Instagram The Art of Charm on YouTube The Art of Charm on TikTok AI, emotional intelligence, validation, leadership, communication, influence, connection, charisma, psychology, empathy, attraction Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9 mins
9 January Finished
