Alexis Ren ON: Breaking Negative Cycles and Letting Go of the Lies We Tell Ourselves

We often want to be recognized for what we did well and not for our mistakes. If we keep hearing the things we did wrong over and over, we tend to see them as truth and eventually keep repeating the same mistakes. This is where most relationships struggle because people often focus on the wrong, the mistake, the unsightly character instead of appreciating the good traits, the commendable actions, and the everyday effort our partners put into the relationship. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty talks about looking past the negative aspects of your relationship and learning to pick out what can make it work.   Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 02:19 Getting through the tough days, weeks, and months in a relationship 04:39 Principle #1: Think of the person as a dear friend 08:32 Principle #2: Relationships should have non-negotiables and things you can be persuaded on 13:25 Principle #3: Don’t respond out of your own insecurity and ego 16:56 Principle #4: Don’t expect your partner to be like you in situations 18:47 Principle #5: Don’t try to change them to be you 20:46 Principle #6: Amplify who they are in bad times 22:10 Principle #7: Do an intervention on yourself Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGenius See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mathew Hussey sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about dealing with relationships. The way most of us struggle with finding the right person, when we expect too much from our partner, when we refuse to acknowledge that change is voluntary, and when the amount of energy we are willing to give to someone who isn’t at par with what we’re willing to give are the truths that are harder to accept.  Mathew Hussey is an British life coach, a YouTube personality, and the author of the New York Times bestseller Get The Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve. His podcast, Love Life with Matthew Hussey, offers practical tips you can use right away to improve all of your relationships – romantic, family, friends, career, and the relationship you have with yourself. Win a limited edition, signed sampler box full of Jay & Radhi's favorite teas. Enter today! https://bit.ly/3jladpu  Join the Sama Tea Founder's Club & enjoy exclusive perks and our private communi-TEA! https://bit.ly/37pPT0K  What We Discuss with Matthew: 00:00 Intro 03:09 What’s your favorite story of love? 06:22 The importance of reevaluating what is actually important in a partner 12:44 It’s uncomfortable but maybe it’s teaching you something 21:21 When all the special moves don’t work and your genuine self comes out 23:56 The problem is people are falling in love too fast 25:47 How can you be nervous when you’re valuing the right things? 28:06 You obsess over what they could have been 32:59 Don’t be upset when you lose a poet, the poetry is the relationship 35:49 A moment where you genuinely are brave enough to let someone in and be seen 39:03 When you come out of an argument bleeding every time 44:31 People aren’t comfortable in being an area they can be criticized 47:32 The culture you create will have an impact in the people around you 50:53 Give an amount of energy you are willing to lose 55:34 Experiencing the endless ocean of disappointment 01:00:00 There is someone that uniquely vibes with your personality 01:03:35 You can’t change a person when they don’t want to 01:09:43 You’ve never been heartbroken, have you? 01:13:35 Staying in unhappy for a long time makes it difficult to entertain the the idea of leaving 01:18:40 The 30-Day Confidence Challenge 01:22:25 Matthew on Fast Five Episode Resources: Matthew Hussey | Twitter Matthew Hussey | Instagram Matthew Hussey | YouTube Matthew Hussey | Facebook How To Get The Guy Get The Guy Book Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Perhaps the hardest word you can say to someone is NO. Saying YES to something, even if it’s half-heartedly meant, is easier because you aren’t obliged to justify it. The pressure is less, and so it’s easier to say so. Whereas, if you say NO, there is this need to justify why you said that and why it isn’t possible for you to do anything at the moment. The guilt for refusing will haunt you. At the back of your mind, this guilt will pressure you to eventually give in. When you eventually give in, you won’t feel good about yourself because the situation is forcing you to do it.    In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty talks about how to say NO without feeling guilty and why you need to say it clearly and openly. Win a limited edition, signed sampler box full of Jay & Radhi's favorite teas. Enter today! https://bit.ly/3jladpu  Join the Sama Tea Founder's Club & enjoy exclusive perks and our private communi-TEA! https://bit.ly/37pPT0K  Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 03:56 Are you a people pleaser? 08:59 Why do we feel guilty when we say NO? 11:11 Feeling bad for saying NO needs to go 13:09 Don’t say NO without actually saying no 15:47 Know why you are saying NO 19:45 Be clear about when you say NO  23:13 When you’re about to say no, thank the person for the interest 24:58 Remember that NO doesn’t mean it’s forever 27:09 You can be assertive and affectionate in saying NO  Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Darren Prince sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about his freeing journey from addiction. They discuss how the substance abuse started, the effects it had on him and his family, the many hurdles along the way as he tried to break free from it, and the stories of the lives he touched and helped save.  Darren Prince is a prominent sports and celebrity agent and global advocate for addiction and recovery. Through his agency, Prince Marketing Group, he represents icons such as Magic Johnson, Hulk Hogan, Charlie Sheen, Dennis Rodman, Chevy Chase, and the late Joe Frazier and Muhammad Ali to name a few. Through his new cause, he has become a sought after speaker on addiction recovery and mental health. What We Discuss with Darren: 00:00 Intro 03:46 Growing up with a crippling anxiety  06:16 The Impostor syndrome grew deeper over the years 09:14 Realizing the addiction was getting bad 13:04 At 14, came the first taste of addiction 17:01 Youth should have access to a trusted teacher or a guidance counselor 21:52 When you are just a shell of yourself 28:08 How addiction affects the people around you 31:35 Helping others recover when you’re still battling addiction  32:35 Recovery isn't based on promotion, it's based on attraction 37:58 Addiction and substance abuse is not getting the coverage that it should 40:38 Your God-Managed Coincidences (GMC) 42:34 It can be therapeutic to look back into your past self 46:34 The story of a father who can see his kids again 49:34 Making a connection is all about the energy you put into it 53:43 A story of several 99 days relapse 58:38 Darren on Final Five 01:00:43 People can send help to Aiming High Foundation Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Episode Resources: Darren Prince | Website Darren Prince | Instagram Darren Prince | LinkedIn Darren Prince | Facebook Prince Marketing Group Aiming High by Darren Prince Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGenius See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What are you really afraid of? Losing a job, talking to a lot of people in public, joining a meeting on your first day of work, or expressing your thoughts openly?  Fear comes in many forms and it limits you to what you think will keep you safe. It can take control of your thoughts and redirect your actions toward the things that won’t help you grow. It will only worsen your anxiety and make you continuously live in fear.     In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty talks about the different types of fear many of us face and how to use them to motivate us toward what we want and eventually live in peace and happiness. This episode is from Chapter 3 of Think Like A Monk, get the audiobook here: https://amzn.to/2THCYUu     Key Takeaways: 00:00 Intro 00:14 The epic battle of Mahabharata is about to begin 02:33 Anxiety, our everyday fear, is holding us back by blocking our true feelings 09:12 The fear of fear 13:20 The stress response: when your body shouts fear 16:00 Working with fear: externalize our fear and step back from it 17:01 Accept your fear, acknowledge its presence 19:23 Find fear patterns 23:26 The cause of fear - attachment, the cure for fear, detachment 27:19 The common misconception about detachment 30:38 Managing short-term fears 36:09 Short circuit fear - when our fear manifests in our body 41:42 Revisit long-term fears and the solution of avoidance 46:09 Take a deep dive into your fears  Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGenius Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.